tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post1610869028814888390..comments2024-03-26T07:33:18.502-04:00Comments on WordWranglers: Conferences Make Me QueasyMargiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03843006118151762550noreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-59620698378165349452011-07-12T18:51:28.394-04:002011-07-12T18:51:28.394-04:00I missed this last week... I would love to go to a...I missed this last week... I would love to go to a conference, because I like meeting people, not that I'm a social butterfly--I'll leave that for my 11 yo daughter--but I enjoy talking to like-minded people. <br /><br />But the cost is a major--MAJOR--drawback. I only live in Central Pennsylvania only two to three hours (by train) from New York. But there was no way I could afford it. <br /><br />There is a conference in New Jersey (NJ Romance Writer's Put Your Heart in a Book). I really, really want to go... and I'm ready to rob Peter to go and forget to pay Paul altogether.<br /><br />And D'Ann... I'd love to meet up with you and Kristi too!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06059049146764159067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-45794234224551509172011-07-07T21:04:38.715-04:002011-07-07T21:04:38.715-04:00Thanks, everyone, again, for coming by! I appreci...Thanks, everyone, again, for coming by! I appreciate you!D'Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333880627045486088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-22400825187651470402011-07-07T07:52:23.083-04:002011-07-07T07:52:23.083-04:00You shy and quiet? I never would of guessed. I tho...You shy and quiet? I never would of guessed. I thought I held the record on that one. I have never pitched (too scared). I usually wander around looking like I'm lost or sit somewhere with my nose in a book. Even socializing is hard for me. But I also believe the time comes when we have to step out of our comfort zone and do something out of the ordinary.<br /><br />I think conferences are of paramount importance for a beginning writer. Once you've got some writing/publishing under your belt they are not as important. In, fact, for the most part you can learn the same stuff by reading Writer's Digest, The Writer, Writer's Journal, etc. <br /><br />Reading the comments, are all writers shy and quiet? Guess that's why we write rather than socialize.CJ Clarknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-77241728870975697832011-07-06T14:56:13.050-04:002011-07-06T14:56:13.050-04:00You've got to push yourself outside your comfo...You've got to push yourself outside your comfort zone. If you sell your book, you'll have to do crowd type things with book signings. A newspaper interview is scarier than a pitch! Keep challenging yourself.Christi Barthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16623086161712323128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-44034639427183500042011-07-06T09:27:03.685-04:002011-07-06T09:27:03.685-04:00There's no reason you can't go to a confer...There's no reason you can't go to a conference and not pitch. I'm shy two, but I've attended National alone when I've had to and made sure I had friends to meet up with. The one thing about romance writers is they are a friendly group. Money is getting to be an issue which is the reason I haven't attended in a few years. I hate to fly and with limited vacation time from the day job I confine myself to regional conferences. Sometimes it helps to start off at the smaller regional conferences.Marie Tuharthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08140971635915166589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-38528376781243451142011-07-06T09:08:29.994-04:002011-07-06T09:08:29.994-04:00I think the key is to have a friend with you - at ...I think the key is to have a friend with you - at least the first couple of times. My first time at RWA National I took my MIL along. She's not a writer, she went just to meet some of her favorite authors. But knowing she was there with me made a difference - even though she didn't attend workshops or pitch sessions.<br /><br />PS: I'd love to be your conference buddy some year...maybe when it comes back to the mid-west!! :)Kristina Knighthttp://www.kristinaknightauthor.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-14352185588610899742011-07-06T08:10:03.635-04:002011-07-06T08:10:03.635-04:00I went to this year's RWA conference. Do I lik...I went to this year's RWA conference. Do I like pitching? Talking to strangers? Being "on" at all times? NO. But I practice, practice, practice...the smiles, the small elevator chit chat, and the pitch. Just remember, it's the "story" that agents want to hear. They don't grad you on how well you deliver it. I do think though, that you can make great connections at conferences. It helps if a friend can go with you or you can meet up with on-line writer friends.Karen Baldwinhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01522178275164058849noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-90822689611670261432011-07-05T23:32:10.653-04:002011-07-05T23:32:10.653-04:00Well, am I amazed at the # of people who have the ...Well, am I amazed at the # of people who have the same feelings as I do! WOW. <br /><br />Thanks for coming by, everyone. I appreciate you so much!D'Annhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05333880627045486088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-58268372936302695762011-07-05T20:17:03.609-04:002011-07-05T20:17:03.609-04:00I didn't go either. I've been to a few con...I didn't go either. I've been to a few conferences and didn't find it mattered much in regard to networking. People go to have fun mostly. If you enjoy it, you should go, but it won't matter much in regard to your career.Jacqueline Seewaldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09177500620940251009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-28473495812930936562011-07-05T19:43:34.029-04:002011-07-05T19:43:34.029-04:00Being out in the public has helped me overcome my ...Being out in the public has helped me overcome my shyness. I still get uneasy at crowded events, but now that I've gone to the Willamette Writer's Conference four or five years in a row, I have a few conference buddies that I look for. And plus, writers are definitely the nicest people!Margiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03843006118151762550noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-38134543018827449042011-07-05T18:39:04.605-04:002011-07-05T18:39:04.605-04:00Um, D'Ann? Are you sure you weren't descr...Um, D'Ann? Are you sure you weren't describing me? Your description sounded just like me. But, at least you went, and you pitched. BTW Happy birthday. Mine is on the 19th. We're both cancers. Maybe that's why we sound alike.Shawnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04264060298236728344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-45432347169261711122011-07-05T16:40:50.077-04:002011-07-05T16:40:50.077-04:00Ok, Brenda. You and me! Let's get ourselves to...Ok, Brenda. You and me! Let's get ourselves to the conference in the Pacific Northwest (Seattle). I'll even pay for the room. Our intinerary? To soak it all up!! And then we'll hit the workshops!! LOL!Sheri Fredrickshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03994182452859135844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-54840171598277013932011-07-05T16:01:27.995-04:002011-07-05T16:01:27.995-04:00I've seen writers make it without it :)
Alth...I've seen writers make it without it :) <br /><br />Although I love to learn and it would be awesome to meet all the people I have gotten to know online. (Esp All my cps:) Maybe one day....Martha Ramirezhttp://www.martzbookz.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-72733682099286705912011-07-05T15:21:34.525-04:002011-07-05T15:21:34.525-04:00D'Ann - I'm in the same boat - very shy - ...D'Ann - I'm in the same boat - very shy - very quiet - so we can not go to conferences together.Darylnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-35214109349829264782011-07-05T14:33:35.039-04:002011-07-05T14:33:35.039-04:00D'Ann my fear of crowds comes from growing up ...D'Ann my fear of crowds comes from growing up in a VERY small town in the middle of nowhere NV. I may live in the city now, but I don't like it. My kids know not to ask to go places like the mall at christmas time because it isn't happening. Even last night for fireworks, we parked in a large empty parking lot above town and watched with maybe, 20 others. <br /><br />I would not be able to go to those conferences either, people and the cost just make it impossible. I have several writers who did go as friends on Facebook and everyone has made a note about the amount of people and how hard it is to deal. So I think we are amoung many writers who prefer to sit at the computer, write and chat online.Angie Coxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02181457018956776015noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-19231430222935585862011-07-05T14:22:39.200-04:002011-07-05T14:22:39.200-04:00I've enjoyed every conference I've attende...I've enjoyed every conference I've attended--four or five?--but I almost always had at least one friend. Going it alone terrifies me, plus the money aspect gets uglier all the time.<br /><br />Do I think they're good? Yep. Important? Yep. Gotta do? No, I don't think so.Liz Flahertyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06794565644883272260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-91111749866312731202011-07-05T12:59:37.687-04:002011-07-05T12:59:37.687-04:00D'Ann, I couldn't agree with you more. Th...D'Ann, I couldn't agree with you more. The money and crowds would keep me away. In a large group of strangers, I would just want to sit in a corner and be ignored. Hate, hate any attention on me in those situations. I don't even think it's really shyness, but more a case of too much simulation -- too much going on, with too many people walking around. Nothing closes me down faster. That's the defintion of a classic introvert in my book!Lisa Kumarhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17993498875059318892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-41753157289586992932011-07-05T12:44:43.008-04:002011-07-05T12:44:43.008-04:00Sheri, I would need a buddy to go with too--and I ...Sheri, I would need a buddy to go with too--and I don't know any writers close to me. And if I didn't have to fly, that would be great. And if I had the money.....<br />Oh, and awesomeness on you meeting N.B. That's soooo cool, hehehe!Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03721556815192785649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-15344570840198574882011-07-05T12:38:38.581-04:002011-07-05T12:38:38.581-04:00I attended the Central Coast Writers Conference la...I attended the Central Coast Writers Conference last year and dug deep - I'm not a social butterfly in the farthest stretch of imagination. Parking my car in the lot and opening the damn door was a challenge for me. <br /><br />I forced myself to sit in the first seat I could find in the front row. And I was glad I did. It gave me an opportunity to make chit chat with Nathan Bransford whom I would never have had the ovaries to approach.<br /><br />Now that I've dipped my toes in a smaller conference, I think I'm ready to try something larger. But I'd sure like a buddy to go with.Sheri Fredrickshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03994182452859135844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-8189735370230355882011-07-05T12:21:15.742-04:002011-07-05T12:21:15.742-04:00First off, I HATE--AND I DO MEAN HATE--to fly. Tha...First off, I HATE--AND I DO MEAN HATE--to fly. That is one of the main reasons why I don't go to conferences. Second, and this is up there with #1 is I simply don't have the funds. Third, although I'm not overly shy and I can fake most situations, talking to an agent or editor would give me heart failure--but only if I were pitching to them about my MS. If I was just having a pleasant conversation about life and writing, then I would be fine. <br />Anyway, these are my reasons for not attending.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03721556815192785649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-133132309124375119.post-40063891424035793602011-07-05T12:12:13.723-04:002011-07-05T12:12:13.723-04:00Um, I'm pretty sure you just invaded my mind a...Um, I'm pretty sure you just invaded my mind and pulled out my thoughts. I like to go to conferences, but I like to sit in the back where no one can see or talk to me. People think I'm rude, but it's more about not being able to come up with coherent conversation.Allison Merritthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11815938562546801372noreply@blogger.com