"Stable and satisfying marriages usually involve two people who are very much alike.” - eHarmony.com
Duane and I were so very opposite that some of our best friends were betting on the longevity of the marriage—and most of those bets weren’t of the positive variety, unless you count a lot of people being positive it wouldn’t last.
Forty-some years later, we’re still together and are still polar opposites. This has led to many, many noisy dialogues or prolonged angry not-talking-right-nows over the years. Even now, I will walk out of the room in stiff-as-a-board silence if we make the mistake of discussing politics. He’s a non-practicing Catholic, I’m a Methodist who returned to the fold; I was a 30-year union member, he was a company man nearly that long; he likes his weather hot and steamy, I like mine every way but that. He grew up city; my idea of metropolitan was having more than one stoplight. Our politics are…well, no, I’m not going to talk about them here, either.
The other part of that long story is that he’s my favorite person in all the world and I’m pretty sure I’m his, too. I laugh because he is paranoid about things and I’m actually pretty fearless, but the truth is that if I’m fearless it’s because he always has my back.
I don’t think I write books that way. Exactly. But I know I love reading about them. Which brings me to my question. What do you think—both in real life and in the books you read and write—of opposites attracting? And staying attracted?